*note: this is a response to Esther's blog on Myspace
"So.... what do you think ladies? What's your type of guy?" - Esther
I like the type of guy who can be as open-minded as me or at least considerate of other ideas because I think if he was anymore open-minded as me...he would be gay, semi-gay, or oddly obscure in the mind. I definitely do NOT want a "party-hard till I drop" type of guy but I would like someone who is outgoing enough to be able to converse with someone properly and even provoke someone's mind. A thinker and/or a conversationalist. I would also like for him to know when to be down to earth and relax too because having your mind reel over a topic for too long is not good at all. With me, I don't like to be wrong but I would rather have the truth and be proven wrong than to be lied and misled. I like being the one who is more logical and wise however sometimes I don't mind being the one in the wrong and have to be reminded to be sensible. Logical, sensible, honest, wise. I would like for him to be romantic but he doesn't have to be in order to sweep me off my feet. All he has to be is thoughtful or sweet. He doesn't always have to be 24/7 spontaneous but I'd like it if he could change things up from the daily schedule every so often.
I definitely want a health & hygiene-conscious man I don't like the fact I'm narrow-minded based on physical appearances but I don't want a greasy, unclean, mess of testosterone. That's not attractive what-so-ever. I don't want, in any way, for him to be OVERLY health&hygiene conscious guy. Seriously, how are you supposed to enjoy some of the natural and pleasurable points in life (such as desserts and running through nature)?
Oh boy, do I want a gentleman and at LEAST know the basics of that kind of etiquette as well as mannerly. I will not tolerate mistreatment of me especially if I do not know them on a deep, personal level. Such as verbal or physical abuse. I don't mind if he farts here and there, or burps loudly sometimes or even laughs really loud about a joke. At certain points in time, it's appropriate...in my opinion. I do that stuff too. Unladylike, right? I'm okay with cursing to a degree but I don't want that guy shooting the f-bomb everywhere. I don't want any "gangster" either. I don't want some guy to be slurring every other words and mixing them with others and have their pants practically hang around their ankles. WEAR YOUR DAMN PANTS RIGHT. It's gross and I do NOT want to see the crease of your ass. I don't need a guy repping a sign in every picture or at all. If it's part of the family or whatever keep it in the family.
I like a guy who can stand up for me or is slightly over-protective. I don't mind if he gets jealous sometimes. Appropriately enough. It's cute and I like a guy who doesn't mind showing how much he treasures his girlfriend.
I don't know if I'm going to get super detailed, because I'm already pretty detailed so far. It takes a little common sense for one trait to lead to something else. Perhaps there will be another blog about the way guys dress.
What's your type of guy, Ladies?
Monday, August 3, 2009
Misinterpretation of the Human Language
" mis⋅in⋅ter⋅pret
[mis-in-tur-prit]Show IPA
–verb (used with object), verb (used without object) to interpret, explain, or understand incorrectly. " (from dictionary.com)
ɪnˈtɜrI might be a victim of this....
No, scratch that - I am but I know that I am not the only one. People misinterpret other people's statements other times all the time and there are plenty of factors. Perhaps that person was talking to another and you just so happen to land right in front of them. That happens more often than one thinks. Or there is a personal view on a definition of a word. After that point someone may take it the wrong way, a misunderstanding takes place, which may lead to an argument. However, that's only one plausible scene because I am an argumentative person when it comes to opinions about emotions especially if it involves MY emotions or people I know. It must be the same with others, right?
Another situation where misinterpretation is common is when two people strike a conversation when they speak different languages. Yes, one might think: "Why would two people who speak two totally different languages manage to cross paths and try to converse?" Yet again, it is more common than one would think. Especially, if you're in an environment where you have to speak with others who aren't very well acquainted with your language (such as a job you currently have, speaking to an elder who speaks barely any English, whatever, etc.)
Other example(s): There are two people who are in a relationship. He/she decides it's funny, whether they recall it had any relevance to any past conversations or not, and states it to the other. For some reason, he/she misinterprets this as a personal joke because it does have something to do with a past conversation or scratches something that has been bothering them (whether that person remembers or not).
I'm not 100% sure if that made any difference to my blog but I do know that people have things buried within their memory that are only pulled up when a certain word, phrase, picture or even sound is emitted or brought up. Anyone may disagree with that but from experience I have found that to be very true.
*Note: I may or may not come back and continue this on another entry in the future if I feel the need to further explain or add on. :)
Thursday, July 23, 2009
To Those Who Have Crossed My Mind
If you want to confront me about whatever I have to say, go ahead and confront me about it. If you want to prove me wrong, I'll admit I am wrong if you are right in what you say. If you don't want to, you don't have to waste your time and just because I wrote all this doesn't mean I think I know everything. This is my opinion about certain people who have crossed my mind for a while and I wanted to get it out. I think I'm just a pent up ball of frustration.
*Note: Idea from Esther. You, wise-thing, you. :)
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1. We had a great time as close friends, but I just don't feel like all the things you told me about how I was so close to you was a lie. If I was such a close friend to you, why don't you put the effort into being a good friend if you stated you were mine also? It's silly how unthoughtful you were. Perhaps you changed but to me...it just doesn't seem like your perspective on friendship and perhaps me has at all and since the beginning I have known you...you barely changed at all. I hope you continue to learn and you will see what I mean. Positively, you're a pretty cool person to hang with. You have good goals but you should tag with it a better morals.
2. You're a great guy. You're hot, you're talented, you're pretty open-minded and now you have your own unique swagger. But it seems your judgment is a lot of the times, clouded by your pride. You cannot hold onto the words you say you will keep and you lie...a lot. I think it's because you're too nice and you don't hold grudges but I told you before...don't pretend to like somebody you don't. Of course, you should keep personal feelings from business but don't go and do favors or give a person advice when I know for a fact you absolutely hate something about them (probably an ill moral[s]). And you need to learn to make decisions with your mind more and less with your heart. It is important to make some with your heart but to always do that is a mistake you will not learn for a long time.
3. We've known each other for a long time. You weren't my first friend, and I wasn't yours. We barely talk anymore and we didn't talk for a long time but I can still trust you after all of it. You're a good person and you're a bit too independent sometimes but that's not too bad. You're stubborn but at the same time you can be very sweet and caring. I wish we could go back to the way we were at times, to be able to connect the way we has but it seems as if we've grown apart too much...No doubt, we'll be there for each other when we need each other but...I feel like that's it. We have a few things in common but it hurts me now to think it may not be the same anymore. You were like a big sister to me - a role model. You still are, but I guess we've both grown UP so much it's like we don't really need each other anymore.
4. Finally someone I can share my opinions about certain things about. You're a wise gal and thank you for the long conversations. It's refreshing.
5. I need to get to know you more, but you're a decent guy too. Keep at it and I'm sure you'll find the girl you need in no time. It may take a few decades (I'm not saying it will) but it will all be worth it if it does. :)
6. You have some problems but I'm sure you'll learn to grow out of it. I know you better than you think. I will, hopefully, be there for you always. As long as you continue to let me be in your life. I'll help you choose the right paths and pull you past when you go through a rough patch. You're good kid. Even though you're so close to me, you never talk to me even though I have offered to you so many times.
7. I feel like you expect a lot from me. I think it is because we've known each other for a few years that you think you've been a great friend to me. You think you know me so well. Do you care for me as much as you say you do? Am I really that close to you? Or am I just a tool to rid of that feeling of loneliness because you feel like I'm the only one who can understand or openminded and patient enough? Yes, there may be other people who you can share the amount of things you have with me but you can't really compare our friendship can you? If you do, and I'm pretty sure you already have, that's bull. That's what I think because I doubt there is ANYBODY else who you can share with about the stuff you have shared about with me. Don't worry, I have not said anything to anyone about our friendship but you betrayed my trust and I still have not completely forgiven you. I don't think you understand how much that betrayal hurt me. I don't think you took the time to think it through. Maybe it's time you should?
*Note: Idea from Esther. You, wise-thing, you. :)
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1. We had a great time as close friends, but I just don't feel like all the things you told me about how I was so close to you was a lie. If I was such a close friend to you, why don't you put the effort into being a good friend if you stated you were mine also? It's silly how unthoughtful you were. Perhaps you changed but to me...it just doesn't seem like your perspective on friendship and perhaps me has at all and since the beginning I have known you...you barely changed at all. I hope you continue to learn and you will see what I mean. Positively, you're a pretty cool person to hang with. You have good goals but you should tag with it a better morals.
2. You're a great guy. You're hot, you're talented, you're pretty open-minded and now you have your own unique swagger. But it seems your judgment is a lot of the times, clouded by your pride. You cannot hold onto the words you say you will keep and you lie...a lot. I think it's because you're too nice and you don't hold grudges but I told you before...don't pretend to like somebody you don't. Of course, you should keep personal feelings from business but don't go and do favors or give a person advice when I know for a fact you absolutely hate something about them (probably an ill moral[s]). And you need to learn to make decisions with your mind more and less with your heart. It is important to make some with your heart but to always do that is a mistake you will not learn for a long time.
3. We've known each other for a long time. You weren't my first friend, and I wasn't yours. We barely talk anymore and we didn't talk for a long time but I can still trust you after all of it. You're a good person and you're a bit too independent sometimes but that's not too bad. You're stubborn but at the same time you can be very sweet and caring. I wish we could go back to the way we were at times, to be able to connect the way we has but it seems as if we've grown apart too much...No doubt, we'll be there for each other when we need each other but...I feel like that's it. We have a few things in common but it hurts me now to think it may not be the same anymore. You were like a big sister to me - a role model. You still are, but I guess we've both grown UP so much it's like we don't really need each other anymore.
4. Finally someone I can share my opinions about certain things about. You're a wise gal and thank you for the long conversations. It's refreshing.
5. I need to get to know you more, but you're a decent guy too. Keep at it and I'm sure you'll find the girl you need in no time. It may take a few decades (I'm not saying it will) but it will all be worth it if it does. :)
6. You have some problems but I'm sure you'll learn to grow out of it. I know you better than you think. I will, hopefully, be there for you always. As long as you continue to let me be in your life. I'll help you choose the right paths and pull you past when you go through a rough patch. You're good kid. Even though you're so close to me, you never talk to me even though I have offered to you so many times.
7. I feel like you expect a lot from me. I think it is because we've known each other for a few years that you think you've been a great friend to me. You think you know me so well. Do you care for me as much as you say you do? Am I really that close to you? Or am I just a tool to rid of that feeling of loneliness because you feel like I'm the only one who can understand or openminded and patient enough? Yes, there may be other people who you can share the amount of things you have with me but you can't really compare our friendship can you? If you do, and I'm pretty sure you already have, that's bull. That's what I think because I doubt there is ANYBODY else who you can share with about the stuff you have shared about with me. Don't worry, I have not said anything to anyone about our friendship but you betrayed my trust and I still have not completely forgiven you. I don't think you understand how much that betrayal hurt me. I don't think you took the time to think it through. Maybe it's time you should?
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